Welcome to The Friends Theory, where we use pop culture and story to reframe the way you see your life, work, and what you’re capable of.

This week, we’re taking a pop quiz, hot shot.

3-minute read.

The One With a Pop Quiz, Hot Shot

Insights from “Speed”, 1994

🎬 Picture it:
It's 1994. Keanu Reeves is playing SWAT team member Jack Traven of the LAPD. There's a hostage situation gone wrong, and Jack's partner Harry (Jeff Daniels) is being held hostage by disgruntled former cop Howard Payne (Dennis Hopper).

Dennis Hopper asks his favourite question:

Naturally, Keanu — aka Jack — gives the only plausible answer:

You may be wondering where in the cream crackers I'm going with this. Stay with me.

YOU are the hostage.

YOU are the terrorist.

When you take the hostage out of the equation, there's nothing standing in your way.

Ever Been Here?

How many times have you been about to do something — press post, ask for the raise, shoot your shot — and then talked yourself out of it?

Not yet. Wait. You're not ready. You need permission.

You're the hostage.

When we do this, we’re all waiting for a permission slip that will never come. Stuck in Dr. Seuss’s Waiting Room. And usually, the only thing keeping us there is ourselves.

This happens to me too. I've spent weeks — months, (years?) honestly — going back and forth on my own positioning. And every day I didn't have the answer was another day I used it as an excuse not to move forward.

Holding myself hostage. Key in my own hand.

Try This On:

Movement — messy, imperfect, iterative movement — is what creates clarity. Not the other way around.

I spent months trying to say something I didn't fully believe yet. And that fear of getting it wrong put the brakes on everything.

Here's what I know now: the waiting wasn't wasted. Everything you went through was the qualification, not the delay. You're not behind. You're exactly on time.

But the permission slip never comes.

So here's your pop quiz: what have you been waiting for? Name it. Then do the smallest version of it today. That's shooting the hostage.

Be like Keanu:

Take yourself out of the equation. You already have the key.

Final Thought

Here's the thing about Speed. The "shoot the hostage" moment? That's the opening scene. The warm-up.

After that comes the bus. Then the airport. Then the subway. Each one bigger and more chaotic than the last.

But that's what this actually looks like. You get out of your own way once — and then life hands you something bigger. You handle that — and then something bigger again. It keeps coming.

The move isn't to do it once and declare victory.

It's to keep going. Every time. As early as you can.

Because the longer you wait, the faster the bus goes.

See you next week,

Lucy x

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